The Nature of Fear
Many times in my life,I have had to push past fear.
Sometimes, as with bullies at school,it was my temper that got me through.
My nickname at school was Mustard, for my hot temper.
The bullies did learn to leave me alone, and pick on someone else.
Later, on the football field,army service, fire brigade, my security career,
it was often that I was more afraid of being seen to be afraid,
than of the threat.
Sometimes,too, the fear of the consequences of inactivity were greater than the fear associated with action.
Eventually, overcoming the fear becomes a habit, and often,
things happen so quickly you react to your training before you have time to feel fear.
And of course, these were real actual threats,real physical danger.
What does all this have to do with networking?
Because the fears I had about networking were not physical threats,
did not threaten my life or limb, I did not at first realise I was afraid.
I procrastinated, made excuses, found reasons not to do what I knew I should do.
What was I afraid of?
The fears that exist in your mind can appear as real as any physical threat.
It is an illusion created by past experience, both first hand, and from others.
Many of our sub-conscious fears are not easily apparent.
When we are afraid to make that call,it is not the phone we are afraid of.
We use it all the time, perhaps even to call this very same friend.
We are afraid of what the other person may say or do.
Funnily enough, we may be just as afraid of a yes, as we are a no.
Yes,many of us are actually afraid of success.
All those childhod stories of money is the root of evil,
rich people don’t go to heaven, and so on.
Learning to push past fear
These fears are all in our mind,
and so we need to train our mind to overcome them.
With the help of some good books and mentors,
I am getting better.
And I use some of the same techniques I used with physical threats.
I am more afraid of the results of inactivity,
than I am afraid of the action.
I am no longer afraid of success.
I will still be a good person,
able to do more good things,
if I am successful.
I use anger.
I get angry when people seem to think I am stupid or inadequate.
When they say it won’t work,or it is a scam,or you can’t do that.
Like I am too stupid to check it out, or not good enough to make it work.
But,I don’t take my anger out on them,I use it to fire myself up.
The best revenge is to succeed!
And,I love helping others.
I can forget about being successful myself, by helping others.
And, if I help enough others, my own success just happens.
Push past fear, and enjoy all the rewards that are waiting for you,
just the other side.